Personally I feel it is necessary to wait until I say “I do” before I have sex with someone.
I recently found myself in a short-lived relationship when my heart was not okay sealing the deal. The truth came out from me and honesty had to take the wheel. He is no longer talking to me because some men count sex as true love.
That certain someone will wait for you if you say what you truly feel in the beginning. Make your boundaries and stick to them. It will hurt less in the end for both of you.
I’m far from perfect but I do know that sex messes with emotions and about how we perceive true love. My advice is to take time to learn about the person while he or she also learns about you before putting all your emotions out there. I plead with you to have self control and respect for yourself.
1 Corinthians 7:9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
I guess I’m just one of the lucky guys that can distinguish between non marital sex an true love. I have engaged in both and have suffered no ill effects. Oh, and I still have LOTS of respect for myself.
I would have typed more but I can barely see through the tears rolling down my face from laughing so hard.