Andrew sent me a text message on Friday night while I was at dinner with friends.

It was a simple seemingly innocuous text asking what I was doing. But I quickly discovered why Andrew contacted me. He felt guilty and needed to confess.

He had set up a sip and go with a gal at a bar/ restaurant for that night. But after he saw her sitting there waiting, he sent her a text saying “no.”

Andrew bailed and walked on by.

I had loads of questions that he answered vaguely but I was still able to piece together a story of the date setup and the outcome.

Andrew met the woman on an online dating site he and I have both used. He said she looked fine in her photos.

They arranged to meet at the restaurant. He walked in and saw a woman who could only be the one waiting for him. Andrew said she looked nothing like her photos, “She was physically hideous to me.”

He walked past her and right out the door. He was just outside the building when he sent her a text message saying that he saw her but he didn’t want to stay.

He received no response from her. He feels guilty and sad. In fact, when I asked if he would write about the experience for sipandgogirl.com, he said no because he wanted to forget about it.

What he did was not reprehensible. If he was going on a blind date aka sip and go to meet someone for the first time and the only way he had to recognize the woman her photos then I do think the photos should match the real thing.

The only part that troubles me is what he found “physically hideous.” I might not find her “hideous.” Andrew wouldn’t elaborate on that part of the problem.

The real problem is that Andrew plain just didn’t want to be out that night. My intuition told me this immediately and I asked him why he was on the online dating website in the first place.

“I don’t know,” he said.

I told him to get of the website and get a hobby rather than set up dates he didn’t even want to go to in the first place.

Otherwise this won’t be his first sip and go that ends before it even begins.