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Sadder (Older) But Wiser Gal For Me

30 September 2013 / / One comment

Two noteworthy things happened recently. One, I talked with my friend Gary about one of our favorite musicals: The Music Man. Two, I had a conversation with passionate sipandgogirl.com contributor Crazy Spectacular about dating.

The two events intersected in the most fascinating way.

I was chatting via Facebook’s personal messaging system with Crazy Spectacular and told her about an ex-boyfriend posting compromising photos of a woman.

She went to that man’s Facebook page and contacted me in horror. But it wasn’t the photos of the woman that gave her pause. It was the photos of the man. She was stunned he was 20 years older than me.
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No Such Thing As “Too Nice”

24 September 2013 / / Comments Off on No Such Thing As “Too Nice”

Children grow up hearing it’s important to be nice to other people. Adults don’t explain, though, why we’re supposed to be nice. There’s just a vague reference to “being a good person.”

They also don’t clarify the difference between being nice and being a doormat. If you don’t know the difference, you’re going to feel isolated.

I was on Facebook the other day and read this post on Mark’s page:

I’ve come to realize I really have no idea who my real friends are. People tell me how great of a guy I am when I ask them to dinner or out for a drink, only to then be asked to loan them money or just take them out for dinners. I’ve probably given 5 digits to those I thought really had an interest in my friendship (or in dating me) only to have never gotten paid back, never given an offer to treat me to dinner, never given a thank you card. Or they disappear shortly after being given something. Just plain nothing. I do it out of the kindness of my heart and don’t expect anything back.
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The Black Sheep

23 September 2013 / / Comments Off on The Black Sheep

My first ballot for U.S. President was cast in 1992. I was excited to enter the polling place for the first time. That particular political season and race was electric and dynamic too.

The 1992 election was also when I emerged as the family member with a different political and sometimes religious leaning than the rest of my relatives.

With that revelation, I further cemented my black sheep status.

A black sheep. Standing out from the rest. No "maybe" with that

A black sheep. Standing out from the rest.

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Tales From Sip And Go Girl: “Casey”

23 September 2013 / / Comments Off on Tales From Sip And Go Girl: “Casey”

A Tale from Sip and Go Girl always means a tale from a dating experience that’s real and true.

This one features Casey.

He was in my War, Peace, and Mass Media class with me on Mondays and Wednesdays.

He asked during a study group if I wanted to go to a movie the next weekend. I didn’t have any attraction to him, but he was a nice guy and a fellow journalism student.

We saw the movie “Under Siege.” That’s the action film starring Steven Seagal as the Navy SEAL who stops bad guys from taking over a ship. We then hit the dance and night clubs. We went to Bobby McGees first. The movie hadn’t allowed us much of a chance to talk so we started chatting for real.
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Nothing In Life To Show For It

17 September 2013 / / Comments Off on Nothing In Life To Show For It

We all think we’re missing out on something that we think everyone else has.

The new college grad envies the person with the 9-to-5 job. The 50 something would love to be the fresh-faced 21-year-old with a whole potential career ahead and the freedom to do nearly anything.

When we’re married and saddled with a mortgage and either kids or pets, we think our single sister or brother is having a wild time out on the town with parties and no-strings-attached lovin’.

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Birthdays often remind us of things we think we are missing in our lives

But more often lately, I see those without a wedding ring or children pine over those things.
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Growing Pains

16 September 2013 / / Comments Off on Growing Pains

One would assume that being a keen observer of relationships, having a master of art’s degree in communication studies, and being empathic means I am incredibly gifted at saying the right thing all the time.

The assumption would be wrong.

As I have negotiated the unfamiliar land that the Sip and Go Girl media EMPIRE has led me to, I discover being the “gossipy self help” of the World Wide Web can make me over-confident and cheeky.

That’s a sour combo when I fling my gifts in the faces of people as though I own the world of intuition.

I did that with sipandgogirl.com writer Picture Perfect. He submitted an article that, to me, seemed like a mini love letter to the woman who was a subject of it. He spoke highly of her in grand terms. Then, after submitting it, he contacted me worried that readers could identify him.

Jeremy Brett as Sherlock Holmes in the Granada Series. Probably figuring out the identity of Sip and Go Girl writers

Jeremy Brett as Sherlock Holmes in the Granada Series. Probably figuring out the identity of Sip and Go Girl writers

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Any Excuse To Break Up

3 September 2013 / / Comments Off on Any Excuse To Break Up

I love the movie “Forgetting Sarah Marshall.” It’s funny, irreverent, but totally true. And, again, it’s funny.

One, like many real life relationships, there are no “bad guys” aka real antagonists among the main characters forming the no-longer-together couple of Sarah and Peter. The movie viewer isn’t invited to hate them. Even the rock musician character of Aldous as the new love interest of Sarah is not meant to be hated.

Two, although there’s a big breakup scene early in the movie, it’s revealed through the plot that it was a relationship slowly dissolving and, really, neither Peter nor Sarah were all that happy in the relationship. That’s like real life too.

Here’s an example from the movie itself. It’s one of many.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7axkJnK1Xk

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Our Lives Contract Before Expanding

2 September 2013 / / Comments Off on Our Lives Contract Before Expanding

In the last year or so I have been up and down and in and out. I think I’m ahead only to turn around and perceive that I’m actually last in whatever race I am running at the moment.

My friend and colleague Liz is a therapist but also quite metaphysical. She has said that this period of my life is one for massive growth and change. Her unspoken comment is that it’s up to me to seize the opportunity to find and make something of the calling that has been following me for years.

She sent me the following article from a self-help and growth website called “Daily OM.”

Sometimes our lives contract before they expand.
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Laugh And The World Laughs With You

27 August 2013 / / Comments Off on Laugh And The World Laughs With You

One thing about life that many people fail to recognize is the delightful absurdity of it. We try really hard to pretend everything is sensible and sane. But, really, the world is a crazy and yet funny place.

More than ten years ago, I realized someone close to me was an alcoholic and had been through treatment. Out-of-character low conversations on the phone and my keen intuition were two clues. The final clue was an 8.5 x 11 piece of paper covered with stickers and a platitude like “Easy Does It” or “One Day At A Time.” It was taped to a wall in this person’s home office.

Another person close to the recovering alcoholic did not know. I might have said something to her about my suspicions but she shrugged off the comments overall.
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