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Not Special Enough

I was watching TV more than one year ago and ran into the movie “Terms of Endearment.” I’ve never seen the 1983 tearjerker and decided this might as well be the night.

I’m glad I watched it because I got a great line of dialogue from Shirley MacLaine’s character Aurora. She delivers it to her daughter Emma played by Debra Winger. Emma is planning on getting married and her mother decidedly does not agree with the decision nor the spouse choice.

You are not special enough to overcome a bad marriage.


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Does Same Sex Marriage Have To Be Gay?

One of my university colleagues posted a provocative question on his Facebook page. Scott was inspired by recent debates and laws about same-sex marriage and asked the following:

For your consideration. Does same sex marriage have to be “gay?” Considering the number of sexless and marriages of convenience, could two persons of the same sex be married and not gay?

Scott’s questions led to a robust conversation.

Jillian: You mean could two people not have sex and still be or want to get married? Yes. Being gay isn’t solely predicated on who you have sex with, but attraction and love.

Art: I was married for about 12 years. It was the same sex most of the time.
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You Might Create The Break Up You Fear

I hear about jealous people who creep around their significant others’ phones or Facebook pages looking for evidence their fears are true.

I get jealous just like other people, but I have NEVER been a creeper looking for dirt about my main guys in my life.

I found the following question and answer on a therapy website. I am not a licensed therapist:

Question-  I’m having problems in my relationship because of my jealousy and trust issues with my boyfriend. We have been together for a year and 1/2. Ever since my past relationship I have a hard time trusting men and it has been drilled in my head that all men cheat.
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If Ron Burgundy Sent Text Messages

I can hear Ron Burgundy actually saying this:

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Sharing Sweet Blessings

In my world, it only takes vanilla soft serve for me to feel happy, alive and connected to others.

I spent the day solo. After a busy week, it was a little strange to have an entire day alone. As much as I like being alone, I also love being around people.

So, by 6:30p.m. I was on edge. And because I had a massive craving for something specifically sweet, I left my apartment for the coolness of Dairy Queen.

They have a newish tasty delight called Peanut Butter Bash. It’s vanilla soft serve covered in a peanut butter sauce, chocolate sauce, and bits of chocolate. Oh it is quite good.
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Relationships Are Like Garage Sales

I found this on Facebook, but can’t remember which friend had it on his or her wall.

The sentiment is a little too dramatic and negative for me. Plus I don’t like the angry swear word.

What do YOU think, Sip and Go Girl reader?

Tales From Sip And Go Girl: “John”

My friend, coworker, and former room mate Bill called John a creeper.

The slang emerged in the mid 1990s and meant someone who slinks around peeping at another person. Usually, a creeper in this context has romantic designs on whoever he or she is watching. While a creeper has the potential to become a scary stalker perhaps, generally a creeper is merely someone who’s socially inexperienced or fiercely shy and afraid to talk or move forward with the object of his or her affection.

There’s also the creeper who does things on the down low aka in secret. The pop group TLC tackled the topic in the Grammy-winning song “Creep.” The song, coincidentally, was released around the same time that this aforementioned John was creeping.

John did indeed pop up at the most unusual of times. He appeared at the restaurant where he, Bill, and I worked but on days other than his designated shift. He would loiter a little longer than necessary at whatever part of the restaurant I was working.
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Yeah Yeah Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff

My ex owned the book called “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.”

I flipped through the pages of Richard Carlson’s book once or twice and read some nice advice including “Remember that when you die your in-box won’t be empty” and “Become more patient.” But I never considered myself a person who sweated the small stuff and thus I really didn’t dig into the book with gusto.

Turns out, though, that when facing certain trials I am indeed one of those people who sweats the small stuff.
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A Corps of Leaders Telling You What To Do

“Each arena, it seems, has a corps of leaders of its own.”

And we might be those leaders, say Elihu Katz and Paul Lazarsfeld in their 1955 book “Personal Influence: The Part Played by People in the Flow of Mass Communications.”

I took a PhD class called Media and Politics in America. I like both topics, and also liked that one of the assigned readings dipped into another fave topic: interpersonal relationships. We read the Katz and Lazarsfeld study, which is famous among scholars who study politics and media. It focuses on interpersonal relationships and the potential influence those relationships have on fashion, public affairs, movie attendance, and the purchasing of household products.

Their research showed most people aren’t directly impacted by messages like advertisements. Instead, they’re influenced by a two-step process in which people thought to be leaders with valid opinions and judgement receive messages from the media. They in turn analyze and share with others in their personal networks.
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Death And Memory: Kriss Kross Makes You Jump

Why do we connect with celebrities’ deaths?

It’s the memory the famous people stir within us.

This question popped up when my cell phone signaled an incoming text this week. The phone is set up to receive breaking news text alerts from NBC News and from one of the TV stations where I used to work.

Chris Kelly (aka Mac Daddy) of the 1990s rap group Kriss Kross had died. They were best known for their 1992 song “Jump.”

My dance class was preparing to leave after our practice and I told everyone “Hey one of the guys from Kriss Kross died!”

Each dancer and the teacher looked at me blankly. No one had heard of Kriss Kriss. I then began to, of course, jump jump and to sing the song.

Still they gazed at me blankly.

Poor Mac Daddy. He’s dead way too young.

Within hours, coincidentally, my friend and TV news colleague Mike went on to Facebook to give what he described as a rant.
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