On a scale of one to 10–with 10 being the highest– how much confidence and sex appeal do you exude?
If you rate yourself below a five on both confidence and sex appeal, you are my target. You need a kick in the butt now.
Singer Justin Timberlake reminds us to bring sexy back
If your confidence isn’t very high, it’s time for a change. A low confidence level could be hindering you. Confidence can help you in your career, how you interact with folks and strangers, how people treat you, and in meeting new friends or boyfriends.
Are you limiting your full potential in different aspects in your life because you fear what others will think of you? Do you fear facing things? Do you think you aren’t good enough? Why?
You must face these fears that hinder you. Life is about challenges and exceeding your limits. It’s not a crime to find out what life is like outside your boundaries.
But to get there you have to build your confidence. Make a list of the things you are good at and then make a list of the things you think are your shortcomings.
What do you see?
Work on things you aren’t good at and want to be. Then get better at it. We aren’t magically born with mad skills. Learn them. Read a book or get therapy. Aspire to make yourself the best you can be. But first you have to face that you aren’t good at some things and know you can change anything.
How’s your sex appeal? Sex appeal as defined by Dictonary.com as
“Immediate appeal or obvious potential to interest or excite others, as by appearance, style, or charm.” You have appearance, attractiveness and charm that win friends or lovers. Are you hiding that appeal? Why?
If you’ve given up on your own sex appeal, it’s time to bring sexy back. Do it once or three times a week at least. It can make life and relationships more interesting. Don’t give me excuses like
- I don’t know how…
- It’s not for me…
- I’m overweight and have kids…
- I’m too tired…
- I don’t have a lot of money…
Hey how about drop the excuses and have some fun? Step out of that box.
It doesn’t cost money to look attractive. Don’t assume you can only look good in your younger years or when you were smaller or more athletic.
Live life for today. You can look good today by looking in a mirror with fresh eyes and also with an attitude change.
Show some pride and bring confidence AND sexy back.
this is so true…i think women forget to take time for ourselves, we are working so hard on kids and husbands, who are like kids. FANTASTIC article!!!!!
Tiffany, have you told your husband that he’s like a child? I doubt that he’d be flattered. Maybe if you took time for him, instead of viewing him as childlike, he might find you sexier.
Devastator. Please, refrain from picking fights on my first ever blog article. Tiffany is so awesome and beautiful. Taking care of kids is like a figure of speech… I for one have taken care of 1 father, 1 mother, 3 brothers and a husband. Kinda like taking care of kids. If you helped care for someone you love, you would know. Let’s keep peace on this site. Keep internet civility strong!
I wasn’t trying to pick a fight. I was expressing a different point of view. I am a single dad that has been raising my daughter solo for 16 years, so I do know what it’s like to take care of a child. I still don’t believe that Tiffany’s husband would be flattered by her reference to him being a child instead of a partner. I didn’t think it was offensive to post a suggestion. Word can be harmful, even if the subject doesn’t read them directly. I’m glad that Tiffany is awesome and beautiful, and I’m confident that her husband sees her that way too.
Ok, Devastator. Keep it clean. Please don’t beat my friends up, I love them.
the other lame excuse i hate is: “i’m married, i don’t need to look sexy anymore; i already have him.”
when you stop caring about the way you look simply because you “have him already” is when your man starts noticing the other women who do care.
Gail,
I hear ya. I was one of those women! I had issues. That’s why I think it’s so important !