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Ending Violence Against Girls And Women

According to national surveys, 25% of women and 30% of men regard violence as normal in romantic relationships.

Why do people think violence is ordinary?

Some academics and observers blame media. TV (including news) and movies invite people to accept violence as a natural and inevitable feature in the daily lives of women. Danger lurks in the form of a date rape drug and the streets are full of males who randomly kill females.

The message is that women need to self-regulate if they’re to avoid becoming victims of violent crimes. If there’s anger or hate against them, they must be at fault and thus have to responsible for protecting themselves right? Women are the ones expected to be the change agents.
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Bringing Sexy Back

On a scale of one to 10–with 10 being the highest– how much confidence and sex appeal do you exude?

If you rate yourself below a five on both confidence and sex appeal, you are my target. You need a kick in the butt now.

Singer Justin Timberlake reminds us to bring sexy back

If your confidence isn’t very high, it’s time for a change. A low confidence level could be hindering you. Confidence can help you in your career, how you interact with folks and strangers, how people treat you, and in meeting new friends or boyfriends.
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Investing In A Marriage

Why is it that people will spend thousands of dollars for a wedding but can not invest in keeping a marriage going?

Often I have watched a husband and a wife give up and not fight for their marriage. If you want something bad enough then you have to put some effort into it. » Read more..

Shaking Up The Snow Globe

A good friend broke up with his girlfriend this past week after months of living with an uneasy feeling in his stomach. His girlfriend loved him, he moved from his hometown to be with her in a large city, and he basically started over with her being the centerpiece in his new life.

My friend isn’t the type who works his 9 to 5 job, comes home, watches an episode of House, gets ready for bed, and then sleeps his way to another day in the grind. He lived a life with a band for ten years. He played shows, drank, partied, and took home woman after woman night after night.
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Myth Busting

I was wandering the world wide web and ran into an article about the myths of dating. It was on match.com. No, I don’t have a profile on the site, but I do read it for the articles.

The following myths are the ones most applicable for those engaging in a sip and go or maybe more.

#1: There’s no such thing as love at first sight

Reality: Actually, there is… but interestingly, it happens more often for men than for women. “Men can fall in love instantaneously when they lay eyes on someone attractive because they’re so visual,” says Dr. Helen Fisher, a noted anthropologist at Rutgers University and author of Why We Love. Women, on the other hand, are biologically programmed to “fall” differently: Since women aren’t as visual, they’re slower to feel smitten. “Women at least have to talk to the person!” she says.
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I Want To Be The Best He’s Ever Had

I’m an ambitious person.

I’m ahead of the game compared to a lot of other people my age when it comes to my education and career. I credit that to my inner drive. Sure there are days when I feel lazy and a bit unmotivated, but overall if I’m going to do something, I give it my all. I like to be the best.
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This Website Isn’t Called “Strip and Go Girl?”

What? I thought this was “Strip and Go Girl.” That’s the website I’m looking for.

Listen, the economy is bad. I lost my lawyer job. A girl has to do what a girl has to do. So I’m a stripper now. It’s OK. I’m cool with it. God gave me this body. Guys say it’s made for sin. But whatever. It’s making me money now and I have to admit I’m having some fun doing it.
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Tell Me It’s Going To Be All Right

The above inspirational pic came from the Facebook page of a friend named Maighread.

How many times have you worried that you’ve crossed over some line between vulnerable and needy? I swear I’ve asked myself this so many times that my cat Saffron could finish the sentence for me if he could talk.
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Misty Water Colored Memories

Lately, my power of memory has been incredible. It’s not that I’m suddenly remembering vivid and strong details of a person, place, or thing from my childhood. It’s as though times and events in my life that I thought were buried or unimportant are suddenly happening with ferocity and drama right now.

The romantic relationships that were not an emotional big deal when they were happening are suddenly the most important relationships ever. The medical issue that ended up okay is now a trauma. The emotions of a marriage and divorce a couple years ago are as raw as though they’re occurring this week. The toxic workplace and coworkers are back at this very moment.

To some extent, everyone goes through this.
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With This Ring I Thee Sell

I had expected a long line of folks fetching vacation mail and sending packages. But the normally busy post office location was shockingly empty.

“I can help whenever you’re ready,” said the jolly looking woman behind the counter.

I was clutching a box, Sharpie, packing tape, stickers with my mailing address, and the item to be mailed.

With great hustle and bustle and organization and a deft hand using her own tape, the United States Postal Service employee had my package ready to go.

And without any sentimentality in this much quicker-than-anticipated moment, I mailed my wedding ring to a stranger in Trumansburg, New York.
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