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Why Selling On Craigslist Is like Dating

By: On the DL

Like many twenty-somethings, I borrowed money through college and grad school. I was fortunate enough to get several scholarships, but I still had to take out several private and government loans to pay my way. Thanks Uncle Sam! Unfortunately, I didn’t realize at the time that it would mean more than $65,000 in debt! Let’s just say if I lost my job tomorrow, I’d be in BIG trouble.

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Everyone Is Happier Than Me

I spend a lot of time and money in Starbucks. I like the hustle and bustle mixed with a calm atmosphere, the “shhshshhhshhhdhsh” sound of milk being foamed, and the already pricy iced white mocha to which I add the extra shot of espresso for flavor. And for someone named Sip and Go Girl it’s the darn near perfect place right?

It’s also one place where I realize everyone is happier than me.

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Loss Aversion: Why We Cling To Dying Relationships

One of the toughest things for me to deal with when I was trying to decide whether to officially end my marriage was knowing I invested nearly 15 years of my life into the relationship. And was it all for naught?

“But we’ve been through so much together” was one of my thoughts.

I was scared of being back in the same lifestyle I had 15 years prior with nothing to show for it, except for some boxed memories and a lifetime of what ifs. It would mean living in an apartment with a cat named after a spice and working in television news. It looked like 1996 all over again.

A couple months ago I read a book called “Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior.” » Read more..

A Charming Child Will Win You The Man

In the movies, women with charming and precocious kids win the men.
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Phantom Lover From The Past

Kurt and I met at a university campus ATM. He recognized the monstrous law book I was carrying as the same one he used in Paul Falzone’s criminal justice class. Turns out Kurt was taking the same class but on a different day.

Our conversation led to an exchange of phone numbers, a phone call, and a date. On a Friday night, I met him at his house. We were then going to drive to see the new Robin Hood movie. The year was 1991. Kurt was wearing those denim overalls popular with bands like New Kids on the Block.
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My Text Message Dependency

One summer I worked the overnight shift. This meant I went into work at 10 p.m. and left around 8 a.m. Not only is it a taxing shift for the body and mind, it’s very isolating for a chatty social butterfly like me.

I became even more addicted to my cell phone.

I craved text messages and signs of life outside the mid-day walls of my apartment. I was very aware of my increased neediness and I told my friend Kim I was going into text message hiding for two days. I wasn’t going to send or receive, except in an emergency.

What did she do?
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Stop Overthinking: Your Journal Might Be A Bad Idea

During my separation from my now-ex husband, I attended a weekend retreat for those separated, divorced, or widowed. A huge part of the weekend was made up of writing about feelings and relationships with our significant other. I sort of planned that after I left the weekend (which was great), I would continue journaling.

I didn’t.
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She Has Crazy In Her Eyes

In spring 2005, the story broke about a woman in Georgia who vanished around the time of her wedding. Law enforcement launched a nationwide search. The woman, Jennifer Wilbanks, eventually called her fiance from New Mexico and claimed she had been attacked and kidnapped.

While police were talking with her, Wilbanks admitted where was no abduction and no attack. She had been overwhelmed by her upcoming wedding.

My then-husband Steve said, “Well I’m not surprised. Look at her. She has crazy in her eyes.”
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Tales From Sip And Go Girl: “Eric”

By: Sip and Go Girl

Eric and I arranged to meet at a slightly upscale restaurant and bar for a drink.

For me, it was merely Tuesday. For him and the rest of the United States, it was Valentine’s Day.

He worked as a counselor at a medical facility and was friendly and slightly charming, although he asked me more than once what I thought of his physical appearance. He was dressed nicely but beyond that I had little to say.
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The Start Of Sipping And Going

By: Sip and Go Girl

So what is “What is sipping and going?”

Six months after my divorce was final, I decided to start dating again. I desperately wanted the distraction and diversion after a rough time in a marriage and rough time during a divorce.

I did not want to mine my workplace or any other area of my life for a date. So I threw a profile up on an online dating site and logged off the computer. When I checked a couple days later, I had dozens of emails. It was easy. I had a date!

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