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Shaking Up The Snow Globe

15 March 2013 / So It Goes / Comments Off

A good friend broke up with his girlfriend this past week after months of living with an uneasy feeling in his stomach. His girlfriend loved him, he moved from his hometown to be with her in a large city, and he basically started over with her being the centerpiece in his new life.

My friend isn’t the type who works his 9 to 5 job, comes home, watches an episode of House, gets ready for bed, and then sleeps his way to another day in the grind. He lived a life with a band for ten years. He played shows, drank, partied, and took home woman after woman night after night.
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Healthy Dose Of Schadenfreude

15 February 2013 / So It Goes / One comment

For those of us that are unfamiliar with the term Schadenfreude, it is when a person takes pleasure in the failure of another person.

Schadenfreude can also be, and usually is, a personal experience. For instance, you have labored for years as an artist and you know someone has had a taste of success on a level above where you currently exist and you harbor a bit of competitive resentment. Then one day you hear about how he or she got drunk at an art opening and insulted a prominent critic or affluent supporter of the arts.
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One Of The Hardest Things To Do

18 January 2013 / So It Goes / Comments Off

One of the hardest things you will have to do in your life is walk away.

Friends, lovers, and business associates can all drain you of your positive energy like a cookie absorbs milk. The ability to identify a problem that isn’t going away and take the steps to remove it from your life not only will serve you in your pursuit of a cleaner mental headspace, but it will allow you to put yourself in positions to find better and more stable people.

I was a part of a collective of artists and we often collaborated on projects together. We were well known in our art scene and the bar scene in downtown Tucson, Arizona.
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Living Well Is The Best Revenge

21 December 2012 / So It Goes / Comments Off

Inevitably, in all of our lives, we begin to fester in a situation that’s shelf-life has expired. Most commonly that situation is a relationship.

Sometimes it’s hard to remove ourselves from a person we’ve become attached to. You can’t break away and many of us are compelled to drive by their home, sit at your favorite bar or restaurant hoping they stop by, or even go so far as to invite them to a party or a holiday get-together. But then—horror—you see them walk through the door with someone else.

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Making A Move

16 November 2012 / So It Goes / Comments Off

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In the game of chess, you are taught to constantly examine the entire board in an effort to see two, three, five, ten moves ahead. This might work for chess but in the game of love and advice, we forget that we sometimes have to look ahead and see if our well-meaning advice can in any way be used to checkmate ourselves.

I have a friend named Bill.