Some people say don’t get your hopes up because then you will be disappointed. I will have to disagree with this statement. Without hope you’re not vulnerable. If you’re not vulnerable, then this will lead you to build up walls around your heart.
Don’t Put All Your Eggs In One Basket
By: On the DL Don’t Put All Your Eggs In One Basket It’s a saying we’ve all heard at one point or another, and it can relate to a variety of situations: job prospects personal life choices relationships you name it I’ve followed that advice all my life. I plan everything I can and try
Putting On My Armor
By: High Hopes Everyday!!!
Insanity Or Courage?
“Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” -Albert Einstein “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.” –Ambrose Redmoon
Relationships Are Like Garage Sales
I found this on Facebook, but can’t remember which friend had it on his or her wall.
The sentiment is a little too dramatic and negative for me. Plus I don’t like the angry swear word.
What do YOU think, Sip and Go Girl reader?
Tales From Sip And Go Girl: “John”
My friend, coworker, and former room mate Bill called John a creeper.
The slang emerged in the mid 1990s and meant someone who slinks around peeping at another person. Usually, a creeper in this context has romantic designs on whoever he or she is watching. While a creeper has the potential to become a scary stalker perhaps, generally a creeper is merely someone who’s socially inexperienced or fiercely shy and afraid to talk or move forward with the object of his or her affection.
There’s also the creeper who does things on the down low aka in secret. The pop group TLC tackled the topic in the Grammy-winning song “Creep.” The song, coincidentally, was released around the same time that this aforementioned John was creeping.
John did indeed pop up at the most unusual of times. He appeared at the restaurant where he, Bill, and I worked but on days other than his designated shift. He would loiter a little longer than necessary at whatever part of the restaurant I was working.
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Yeah Yeah Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
My ex owned the book called “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.”
I flipped through the pages of Richard Carlson’s book once or twice and read some nice advice including “Remember that when you die your in-box won’t be empty” and “Become more patient.” But I never considered myself a person who sweated the small stuff and thus I really didn’t dig into the book with gusto.
Turns out, though, that when facing certain trials I am indeed one of those people who sweats the small stuff.
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A Corps of Leaders Telling You What To Do
“Each arena, it seems, has a corps of leaders of its own.”
And we might be those leaders, say Elihu Katz and Paul Lazarsfeld in their 1955 book “Personal Influence: The Part Played by People in the Flow of Mass Communications.”
I took a PhD class called Media and Politics in America. I like both topics, and also liked that one of the assigned readings dipped into another fave topic: interpersonal relationships. We read the Katz and Lazarsfeld study, which is famous among scholars who study politics and media. It focuses on interpersonal relationships and the potential influence those relationships have on fashion, public affairs, movie attendance, and the purchasing of household products.
Their research showed most people aren’t directly impacted by messages like advertisements. Instead, they’re influenced by a two-step process in which people thought to be leaders with valid opinions and judgement receive messages from the media. They in turn analyze and share with others in their personal networks.
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Better To Be Single Than Married And Alone
I was recently encouraged when I heard that it is better to be single than to be married and alone.
I was taken aback for a moment when it hit me.
Singles need to embrace this opportunity to do things and go places to explore and learn more about themselves. 
This allows them to really figure out what they want from their marriage before embarking on the “I need to find a man (or woman) road.”
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My Heavy Heart
From the Facebook page of Crazy Spectacular:
It is with a heavy heart I will no longer write for a relationship site of my sweet girlfriend. Thanks for your enthusiasm and you can still enjoy fun articles written by fantastic folks at sipandgogirl.com.
Gail: What? You barely wrote one article! You have plenty more great things to share!
Crazy Spectacular: Thanks Gail. But I only like sharing with people I know and like. I’m an artist not a writer. I don’t live by average norms or rules. I’m offensive.
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Death And Memory: Kriss Kross Makes You Jump
Why do we connect with celebrities’ deaths?
It’s the memory the famous people stir within us.
This question popped up when my cell phone signaled an incoming text this week. The phone is set up to receive breaking news text alerts from NBC News and from one of the TV stations where I used to work.
Chris Kelly (aka Mac Daddy) of the 1990s rap group Kriss Kross had died. They were best known for their 1992 song “Jump.”
My dance class was preparing to leave after our practice and I told everyone “Hey one of the guys from Kriss Kross died!”
Each dancer and the teacher looked at me blankly. No one had heard of Kriss Kriss. I then began to, of course, jump jump and to sing the song.
Still they gazed at me blankly.
Poor Mac Daddy. He’s dead way too young.
Within hours, coincidentally, my friend and TV news colleague Mike went on to Facebook to give what he described as a rant.
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Don’t Overthink It
It’s a simple enough idea, but for many of us not “overthinking it” can be nearly impossible at times. Whether it centers around a relationship, work, finances, a looming life decisions, all of us are probably guilty of thinking too much at one point or another.
My inspiration for this article came during a 6.2 mile training run. My half marathon is just a few weeks away and I’m hell bent on breaking 2:30 this time around. It’s my third time tackling 13.1 miles and I really want to start the new year with a strong personal record.
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Say Goodbye And Thank You
Saying goodbye and thanking people is so important that I actually become anxious when I don’t do it.
My 2nd grade teacher at the Seattle-area school I attended was named Mrs. Haydon. She was smart and thoughtful. She encouraged me scholastically and I represented the entire 2nd grade during a school-wide spelling bee. Most of all, she exposed me to different cultures. Mrs. Haydon’s family was Japanese.
Mrs. Haydon’s second grade class in the Seattle, WA area. Sip and Go Girl is in pic.
I didn’t like doing art projects in general, but we did neat crafts in her class. We put a pile of wet ink on white and pink paper and by blowing gently threw a straw, I would watch the ink flow and wiggle into delicate and graceful shapes.
I loved Mrs. Haydon. She was so unique.
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If You Got Up, You Can Get Down
People worry about cats stuck in trees. But, really, have you ever found a feline skeleton dangling from a branch? No. They find their way back to the ground.
When I first moved to my current apartment, my cat Saffron adapted quickly. He spent a few days crawling in and out from under the bed to nap and hide, but it was just a tiny bit of time before he was staring out windows and watching birds.
Saffron checking out plants on the balcony in March 2011
