Some people say don’t get your hopes up because then you will be disappointed. I will have to disagree with this statement. Without hope you’re not vulnerable. If you’re not vulnerable, then this will lead you to build up walls around your heart.
Don’t Put All Your Eggs In One Basket
By: On the DL Don’t Put All Your Eggs In One Basket It’s a saying we’ve all heard at one point or another, and it can relate to a variety of situations: job prospects personal life choices relationships you name it I’ve followed that advice all my life. I plan everything I can and try
Putting On My Armor
By: High Hopes Everyday!!!
Insanity Or Courage?
“Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” -Albert Einstein “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.” –Ambrose Redmoon
Control Your Passion
Personally I feel it is necessary to wait until I say “I do” before I have sex with someone.
I recently found myself in a short-lived relationship when my heart was not okay sealing the deal. The truth came out from me and honesty had to take the wheel. He is no longer talking to me because some men count sex as true love.
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Healthy Dose Of Schadenfreude
For those of us that are unfamiliar with the term Schadenfreude, it is when a person takes pleasure in the failure of another person.
Schadenfreude can also be, and usually is, a personal experience. For instance, you have labored for years as an artist and you know someone has had a taste of success on a level above where you currently exist and you harbor a bit of competitive resentment. Then one day you hear about how he or she got drunk at an art opening and insulted a prominent critic or affluent supporter of the arts.
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You’re Too Nice
We’re taught to play nice, to share, to be compassionate, and to practice the “golden rule.” I’ve followed suit for the past twenty something years and would like to think my ability to care for others is one of my best qualities.
So my question is, when did being “too nice” become a bad thing?
I hear that a lot, especially when it comes to how I feel about my ex.
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OK Cupid, I’m Listening
Because I write about relationships, I’ve done online dating, and I am after all called Sip and Go Girl, my attention was piqued when I saw my friend and former co-worker Robert posting something on Facebook about the website OK Cupid, which is where he met the gal he has been dating for five weeks.
“I just got a message from OK Cupid, yes…the dating site, asking me to be a moderator. Meaning whenever someone reports someone else’s profile for being phony, obscene, etc. I would get to investigate it. Could be interesting. Their disclaimer said, ‘This is not for the faint of heart. If you’ve never seen an R rated movie, you might want to pass.'”
My Life Is A Romantic Comedy
I was 10 or 11 years old when I began to attach certain songs to certain moments of my life. I roller skated holding hands with Tim while the Diana Ross and Lionel Richie song “Endless Love” was playing at Sunrise Rollerland. I got a little choked up when I heard that song playing from my clock radio just a few days later.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MP7m5VqQ6f8
A True Relationship
I recently became Facebook friends with a former co-worker who’s now with a television network in New York City. Shannon is a graphic artist.
She didn’t design the item to the left but it was on her Facebook wall. I like it. I think it applies to all relationships and not just romantic ones.
Do you have someone who accepts your past, supports your present, loves you and encourages your future?
I hope you do!
One Cannot Not Communicate
I used to start my first lecture of the semester for university students with the words one cannot not communicate. The phrase came from the Palo Alto Group, a group of researchers studying the mind.
The basic idea is that no matter what we’re doing or saying, we are indeed communicating something to the other person. That’s why it irks me to no end when I hear someone say, “we’re not communicating.” Because it’s not that someone isn’t communicating, it’s that he or she isn’t communicating effectively.
If you’re sitting on a bus reading a book with the cover “50 Shades of Grey”, you’re communicating something different to other riders than if you’re reading a book with the cover “The Bible.” If you’re silent during a lunch out with your best friend, you’re communicating something to him or her.
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Stop Thinking The Same Thing
We’re thinking too much alike. Stop it.
There’s nothing uglier for a family, a workplace, a social club or any type of group than for members to get stuck in the trap of all thinking the same thing all the time.
Groups are useful and necessary in many situations. Handling a project or something in a group is good because this setup often solves problems that individuals cannot.
But some groups can create a mess. The cover-up of child sex abuse at Penn State is one example.
People attached to the football program tried so hard to protect the glory of the university image, the football team, and the revered coaches Jerry Sandusky and Joe Paterno. Instead, children suffered at the hands of Sandusky. He was sentenced with 30 to 60 years in prison after being found guilty on 45 counts related to sexually assaulting children. But it took a long time for the case to reach courts because of the coverups at the university.
Beware the groupthink.
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Tackling Sports And Violence
My parents were married in Minnesota, a state where long cold winters bring ice to the lakes and ponds and the fast-paced sport of hockey is popular.
Shortly after my folks were married, a neighbor approached my mother.
“Is everything all right with you and John?”, she asked my mother Ann.
“Yes. Why?”, my mother replied, puzzled.
“Well, I hear him yelling.” The neighhbor looked concerned.
My mother replied, “Ohhhhhhhh. No. He’s yelling at the hockey games!”
The Minnesota Wild hockey team. It wasn’t around when my parents got married, but I’m sure hockey looks the same now as it did in the 1970s.
Out Of The Blue
Nearly three years ago, an email arrived from LinkedIn. LinkedIn is the social networking website for people in professional occupations. Unlike Facebook, the main purpose of LinkedIn is not social. It’s business. It has since become the hottest website for job seekers.
Well back in spring 2010, the email I received was not about a job or work. It was telling me that Neil had sent me a message via the website, seeking contact.
Out of the blue.
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