Some people say don’t get your hopes up because then you will be disappointed. I will have to disagree with this statement. Without hope you’re not vulnerable. If you’re not vulnerable, then this will lead you to build up walls around your heart.
Don’t Put All Your Eggs In One Basket
By: On the DL Don’t Put All Your Eggs In One Basket It’s a saying we’ve all heard at one point or another, and it can relate to a variety of situations: job prospects personal life choices relationships you name it I’ve followed that advice all my life. I plan everything I can and try
Putting On My Armor
By: High Hopes Everyday!!!
Insanity Or Courage?
“Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” -Albert Einstein “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.” –Ambrose Redmoon
Tales From Sip And Go Girl: “Dennis”
Dennis is the first fella I met online and then met in person for a sip and go after my divorce was final.
I was ready to meet and greet folks. I was seeking diversion and distraction but not a boyfriend.
I didn’t know what to expect from an online date. But I suppose I hadn’t expected a tightly organized conversation with clearly delineated topics for discussion and explanation.
Do Something You Want To Do
Do something you want to do.
That’s what my therapist told me as I sat sobbing on her couch during one of our bi-weekly sessions.
It has been about eight months since I stopped going to see her and I can tell I’m so much stronger and healthier than I was then. But I still struggle with those words to this day.
I’ve lived almost my entire life trying to please others: my parents, my boyfriends my teachers, my bosses. I realized during therapy that I’d put myself pretty low on the totem pole of priorities. So being faced with the challenge of doing something I wanted was a little daunting.
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Tales From Sip And Go Girl: “DJ K”
I met the man who went by the name DJ K on the Number 1 bus that ran from a light rail station to the bus stop I used. We started talking during that 25 minute ride. At some point I told him where I worked, which was a restaurant not far from that bus stop. He told me, not surprisingly, he wanted a thriving music career.
A bus much like the one on which DJ K and I met
DJ K is the subject of this Tale From Sip And Go Girl.
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To Travel Or Not To Travel
When do you take a vacation with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Do you go when you’re still in the “getting to know someone” phase or should it be after you’ve known them and enjoy their company enough to stand them for a week straight of driving long distances or catching flights?
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Hit The Reset Button
I tend to be the type who overbooks myself with work time, volunteer time, gym time, friend time, and family time. You name it and it’s probably on my schedule.
I like being busy. I keep on track and the moments just fly past me. But I’ve realized recently that sometimes you just need to recharge and go reset the body and the mind.
The other day I worked an 11-hour shift with no break and no lunch. I was exhausted by the end of it. I felt like I’d been literally beaten.
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Tales From Sip And Go Girl: “Chris”
Chris and I never dated. I was never attracted to him. I never had one iota of desire to be romantically in his company.
But he thought I wanted to hitch my horse to his wagon.
And he was my manager.
Chris looked like the blue muppet on Sesame Street who was always getting frustrated by the nonsense put forth by Grover.
Chris looked like the muppet on the left
The blue muppet was the one in the skits who said with great exasperation “waiter there’s a fly in my soup.”
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Change For Yourself
Change can be good. Some people want to eat healthier, stop drinking or smoking, or exercising more. Whatever it is then you should go for it. Change will only happen with self discipline and control.
But what do you do if you are trying to better yourself but your partner is not willing to change?
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Leap And The Net Will Appear
Leap and the net will appear
I’ve heard and seen this quote several times in a variety of settings. When I do hear it, I imagine myself staring down at the ant-like people on the ground while standing on a high ledge. I’m nervous, sweaty, anxious, scared, and trying to brace for the inevitable impact when I hit the ground.
If someone told me to “leap and the net will appear,” I’d probably tell him or her to get lost, but probably using much more profane language than that.
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Tales From Sip And Go Girl: “Neil”
Nearly three years ago, an email arrived via LinkedIn.
LinkedIn is a social networking website. Unlike Facebook, the main purpose of LinkedIn is not social. It’s business. It has since become the hottest website for job seekers and for professionals in general. It’s like having a business card and a resume online. Recently, I even offered someone a pretty good paying job because he had the prescience to connect with me via Linkedin.
Back in spring 2010, the email was telling me Neil was seeking contact.
Neil was one of the few people I dated who ended up not a friend. That was because the relationship ended badly. Or rather it just ended messy. I guess he’s not a true sip and go because I did see him after our initial date. But that’s just semantics.
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