Tag Archive for marriage

When the “I” Becomes “We”

11 December 2013 / / Comments Off on When the “I” Becomes “We”

I’ve never been married. I’ve never really been close to getting married, but these days I’m dating a man who just might be my future husband.

Most of my adult life I thought about what it would be like to make that commitment, although I must admit a lot of those thoughts focused on wedding dresses, a ring, reception colors, bridesmaids. I thought about, you know, the fun wedding stuff.

Now that I’m older, I realize there’s a lot more to getting married than that one special day. Even now as he and I progress in our relationship, the I’s are slowly becoming We’s.
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Not Special Enough

17 June 2013 / / 3 comments

I was watching TV more than one year ago and ran into the movie “Terms of Endearment.” I’ve never seen the 1983 tearjerker and decided this might as well be the night.

I’m glad I watched it because I got a great line of dialogue from Shirley MacLaine’s character Aurora. She delivers it to her daughter Emma played by Debra Winger. Emma is planning on getting married and her mother decidedly does not agree with the decision nor the spouse choice.

You are not special enough to overcome a bad marriage.


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Does Same Sex Marriage Have To Be Gay?

10 June 2013 / / One comment

One of my university colleagues posted a provocative question on his Facebook page. Scott was inspired by recent debates and laws about same-sex marriage and asked the following:

For your consideration. Does same sex marriage have to be “gay?” Considering the number of sexless and marriages of convenience, could two persons of the same sex be married and not gay?

Scott’s questions led to a robust conversation.

Jillian: You mean could two people not have sex and still be or want to get married? Yes. Being gay isn’t solely predicated on who you have sex with, but attraction and love.

Art: I was married for about 12 years. It was the same sex most of the time.
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Investing In A Marriage

16 March 2013 / / One comment

Why is it that people will spend thousands of dollars for a wedding but can not invest in keeping a marriage going?

Often I have watched a husband and a wife give up and not fight for their marriage. If you want something bad enough then you have to put some effort into it. » Read more..

Control Your Passion

16 February 2013 / / One comment

Personally I feel it is necessary to wait until I say “I do” before I have sex with someone.

I recently found myself in a short-lived relationship when my heart was not okay sealing the deal. The truth came out from me and honesty had to take the wheel. He is no longer talking to me because some men count sex as true love.
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