We get paranoid when we’re insecure about something. We’re also apt to believe what people say much quicker than we might normally. Or, sometimes we hang on desperately to someone’s advice when we’re unsure about ourselves.

I was talking with a networking colleague when Luci suggested that the reason I wasn’t receiving attention from potential employers or other connections was because a former employer might be giving me a bad reference. It had been a strange last seven days both personally and professionally and when she said that, a strange heavy feeling grew in my stomach.

I grew very worried. How do I stop this? What did I do? Maybe this is why I hadn’t heard about some freelance writing I had been asked to do. I kind of began to panic. I needed advice.
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