We’re taught to play nice, to share, to be compassionate, and to practice the “golden rule.” I’ve followed suit for the past twenty something years and would like to think my ability to care for others is one of my best qualities.

So my question is, when did being “too nice” become a bad thing?

I hear that a lot, especially when it comes to how I feel about my ex.

Even though I know I made the right choice in walking away and am so much happier in my current relationship, I still worry about him and want him to be okay. Keep in mind he’s in his mid-thirties and has a pretty intense selfish streak.

If my past is any indication, I guess being “too nice” becomes a bad thing when you’re dating the wrong guy.

You see, I’m a nurturer. I enjoy taking care of others, showing them I care, making them feel special. I hope it will help me be a great mom some day.

Rather than see it as a weakness, I try to embrace it. I see it as one of my greatest strengths. Not everyone has the capacity to love and care for others.

But as noble as that may seem, it can attract people who take advantage of that quality rather than appreciate it. I’ve learned through previous relationships that setting standards is extremely important when it comes to choosing a potential mate.

You have to have sticking points and draw a line in the sand. Even though your heart may be capable of doling out incredible amounts of love, that doesn’t mean everyone’s entitled to it.

I’m not saying you have to be a “mean girl.” Nobody likes one of those. Just don’t waste your time or emotions worrying and caring about someone who wouldn’t do the same for you.

Save it for the person who will be “too nice” right back.